Today evening I met a male old friend of mine who told me about this stunning and luscious girl he met on Facebook. He said, they have been friends for some long time now, they have ever met each other twice and he really liked her. They chat every day, she is fun, she cares about him so much and he also cares about her. But he said the more they have been chatting and sharing secrets every day, the more he has liked her and developed feelings for her. One day he tried opening up to her about how he felt but she ignored the jazz. He added on that when he calls her sweet names in their chats and on phone she also responds sweetly. And one time he tried to cut off the communication and he gave her space so as to stop everything, but distance could hurt both of them. So, he was so puzzled about her and the whole situation. He asked me to tell him what I think she is up to, what she wants and what he should do for her.
Well, most of us undergo the same situations when we are trying to connect with some people in our lives. Personally I have ever been through it many times and it could also confuse me. But what I realized and learnt is sometimes those people like us and they are interested in being part of our lives, but they are afraid of some things.
They are afraid of getting attached to someone again because most of the people they got attached to in their past ended up using them, hating them and they left them heartbroken, they are afraid that the same things that happened in their past relationships like fights and arguments over stupid little things which tore them apart are gonna happen again, they are afraid that their insecurities are gonna come up again and they mess up everything, they are afraid of giving in their hearts again because they risked them in the past and people stomped on them, and they are afraid of repeating the same mistakes they did and wasting their time again. That’s why they keep everything at that point. Today they can treat u as a special friend, tomorrow they can treat you as a stranger (so complicated and distant), and then the following day they can treat you like a lover.
Such people learnt lessons from their past and now they fear to risk their lives and hearts again. They keep their true feelings in their hearts because they don’t wanna face the same pain. But that doesn’t mean they don’t know how to love or they don’t have love in their hearts. They do have it but they are just cautious of their lives now.
If you have got such a person and you are interested in having a relationship with them, please give them time to make up their mind. Try to understand their situation and don’t rush them into doing things they will regret. Just be patient with them and keep reassuring them how you love them so that you earn their trust. I’m sure if they also like you, they will learn to trust you and they will open up to you with time. Remember true love waits. No need to rush.
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